This is a quick follow up to the one posted a few days ago. The decisions have been made, now the actions must be done.
Because I want one more month in this apartment, I have decided not to inform M until March, so I can get that final month's rent. This gives me more time to pack, as well as figure out what to do with such items like my table (a cute, small and round kitchen table with two chairs...and I am so unhappy to be losing the darling little thing), microwave, pots and pans, etc. Since I intelligently kept all the original boxes, a lot of things (such as pots and pans and dishes) can be packed and stored, either in a closet or eventually I'll spring for a small storage unit.
Once I have the March rent money in hand, I will send -if we are unable to speak in person beforehand- the letter I wrote detailing what the problem was and what I was doing about it and set into motion the child support paperwork. I was previously denied foodstamps (which would've come in very handy this past month) due to his giving us too much money, and was actually told not only by the food stamps people but by medicaid that we would be eligible for it all if I sued him for child support. Well, now it's going to actually happen. Not, mind you, that I *want* to be a welfare mom, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do, and if this is how I can keep food in Adelia's belly, then so be it.
I am not going to CA for a couple reasons. The in-laws and I sat down and had a long talk. Adelia and I will be taking their offer of moving back in, but it is only for half a year, as we all decided that instead of renewing their lease in December we would begin house-hunting. I love LA, this is the first place I have ever really felt at home. CA, on the other hand...I hate CA. K, my friend, is only there because of the military. The most important reason I am staying here, though, is Adelia. Her grandpa is the first person she has ever really LOVED...she worships the very air he breathes, and he returns this. I cannot, for her sake, separate them during this difficult transition.
Obviously, since I stated I was staying quiet until March, M knows nothing of this yet. I haven't even changed my facebook status, as that would provoke a flurry of questions I'm not ready to answer. I asked the people involved with this to stay quiet until I have done what I need to. This won't be easy or glamorous for any involved, but it is necessary.
